
Kimberly & Dmytry Forever
DMYTRY SAYS
We’re engaged. That’s right. I proposed. Kimberly kept saying I was taking too long, but she’s impatient, and I disagree.
Why did it take me four months, or according to Kimberly, forever, to propose?
Uncertainty.
Not because I didn’t want to get engaged, but because I knew I would remember the night I proposed forever. And so would Kimberly. So, damn, it kinda seemed like something I shouldn’t screw up.
So I thought about it. I thought long and hard, yet any idea that entered my mind was dismissed as “not good enough.” (By me, not Kimberly. She read this and wants me to stress that she NEVER said my ideas were not good enough.)
Dying from impatience, Kimberly came to me with good advice. “It’ll be wonderful no matter how you do it,” or something along those lines. But that still didn’t answer the question of “How? How do I propose?” Hmm…
I didn’t have that many options. No car. Little money. Almost impossible to find child care. I assume this made my thought process more difficult—though, I can’t be certain.
One day, as my plans were going nowhere, Kimberly arranged for us to have a date. (A rarity in our situation. And yes, I wish we had more of them.) She managed to borrow a car, get sleepovers for all three kids, and even get invitations to a play that had not yet premiered. (Our friend is a theatre director.) And as if that wasn’t enough, she wore a sexy gold outfit that I couldn’t stop praising.
This was going to be our date to celebrate her birthday. (It wasn’t on her actual birthday. It was a few days before. Good enough for folks who can barely get out of the house.)And as I got dressed in something that actually looked nice, something inside of me stirred. My hands went to a box, found the ring Kimberly and I had picked out months before, and put it in my pocket.
Then we had our date.
We went to a bookstore that was crap, and picked out two books of which only one was good. We went to a play, and watched an awesome show. We got hungry, and went to Olive Garden.
I had forgotten about the ring. Well…mostly…it still crept into my thoughts when I felt it in my pocket or looked into Kimberly’s eyes.
She mentioned how her father had always taken her to Olive Garden on her birthday, and how this place was perfect for our date.
And as we ate a delicious meal at the restaurant, we talked of how our morning had been hell, and how things slowly turned to heaven. Of how we loved each other, and how we would spend our lives together forever.
It was late. The restaurant was nearly empty. I looked into Kimberly’s eyes, and again something inside me stirred. I glanced at my pocket. Was this the right time to propose? I hadn’t planned this. But still, it felt so…right. So natural.
But what if I was wrong? What if this memory wasn’t good enough? Well, screw it. The best things in life are often unplanned.
I took out the ring and asked Kimberly to marry me.
I will never forget the smile on her face.
KIMBERLY SAYS
I said “YES” by the way. I suppose that’s implied, but I wanted to be clear. And my answer was never in question, which you already know if you’ve been following us AT ALL! For those of you who are new to our love blog, here’s the Reader’s Digest version.
We met on twitter.
We exchanged writing.
We fell in love with each other’s work.
We became writing partners.
We fell in love with each other.
But what to do about the huge age difference between us (he’s much younger than me) and the fact that we live in different countries?
We said “Who cares” about the age. (Some do care, but who cares what they think? We are happy and our kids are happy and really, isn’t that what matters?) And we have and continue to overcome the different countries.
Dmytry left Canada on New Year’s Eve to be with me and our kids forever.
My answer was always yes.
But still, it had to be asked. And a ring had to be given.
And I’m not THAT impatient! #shutup
But I’m glad he took his time. Chose the moment carefully. And picked a place that was special to me.
He is my Russian Prince (as one friend described him!)
We celebrated with chocolate.
The ring is not the one we originally picked. (hmm…fancy ring or immigration lawyers? #yeah #lawyers)
But this ring is better.

The Perfect Ring
We went out one day with the intention of finding my perfect ring.
At a pawn shop.
#Yup #youheardme
The first pawn shop we randomly stopped at would have my ring. And it did. And I love it. It is a beautiful white gold ring with diamonds and sapphires. And it’s perfect.
But not as perfect for me as the man who put it on my finger.
So, yes, the Writing In Love couple is officially engaged to be married. Date to be determined by the immigration process. And I am insanely happy. I didn’t think it would make that big of a difference. After all, we already knew we wanted to be married. Everyone already knew this. But is has made a difference.
I feel different.
I am engaged to the man I love. I wear his ring and hold his heart. And we will have many more date nights of epic awesomeness. #whenthekidsaregone